You disqualify yourself based on appearances alone. Beauty is commonplace – I can walk into any packed bar, mall, or park and see dozens of girls that I’d consider attractive. You can’t eliminate yourself before you even know what she wants. We all have our own personalities, interests, and goals. If you approach a woman and she’s not interested, don’t take it personally. It’s not a rejection from all women or from certain “leagues”.You’re telling yourself looks are the only thing that matters – and that’s a terribly narrow view on people and relationships. Internal qualities like respect, kindness, and self-esteem are much more rare and precious. It’s simply a declaration that you aren’t compatible with this one person.
We get so hung up on beauty privilege, the halo effect, the value of facial symmetry and waist-to-hip ratios and the idea that only 20% of whomever get 80% of the fucking that we tend to ignore things that don’t fit the accepted narrative.
Lesson to be learned from this scenario: Cooking for your man will keep him by your side.
And helping with the cleaning and laundry (but not 2. There is very little left to the imagination with this man's girlfriend.
After all, many of us know someone who punches above his or her weight class, dating people who they – by all rights – should have based on the flawed idea that the only thing that people value is looks.
Whenever we see someone who isn’t conventionally attractive dating somebody who is more attractive we often dismiss the relationship as somehow invalid; clearly he has money, or a high-status job or some other external quality that the more attractive partner desires enough that she is willing to put up with having to toss the cave troll a handy every now and then.